TMI: Men ask

1. Advizor:
I once overheard in a bathroom, “There is nothing as over-rated as sex or under-rated as a good bowel movement.” Discuss.

■Like Beck said: "clearly this person isn’t having the same sex as I am." Though with age, or meds, or heavily constipated, I'm sure that a good bowel movement would be pleasurable and relieving, just not nearly as much as sex - depending on their sex life and necessity of such bodily function.

2. the late phoenix:
Friendship lasts longer than cumming. which of your online friends that you’ve never met would you like to meet in real life? which do you think you could become life-long REAL friends with? Actual friends, like going out to coffee and movies with, gossiping with, kissing on the forehead, hugging, loving.

■There are so many people! Gaming I just met two over the summer, and one certainly fits the bill with the above. For bloggers, I can't wait to meet to Molly and her husband, Curvaceous Dee seems like she'd be amazing fun, and especially JohnDStories because both of us sisters are madly in love with him.

3. John D Stories:
In a parallel universe, who out of your blog or Twitter followers would you most like to spend a steamy evening with? What would you do? Why them?

■Such a difficult question to narrow to just one, so I'll go with the first man who made me want to straddle him from an image on SinfulSunday, Through the Lens

4. Virtual Sin:
(multi-part question)
a. What method of stimulation (intercourse, oral, manual, toy, whatever) gives you the strongest orgasm?
■Though his fingers will hit the gspot consistently and make me squirt, it is still intercourse that gives me the longest and strongest orgasms.

b. With what method of stimulation do you get the most orgasms?
■Would still be intercourse, again, a close second to his fingers.

c. If the answer to a is different from the answer to b, what’s wrong with your life?
■Orgasms are amazing, regardless.

5. Jon Pressick:
Would you rather have a life where you only had sex once a year for 2 minutes or where you have to have sex, every day for a minimum of 2 hours?

■The first one hardly even seems an acceptable answer. How is this even comparable?! I would love the second option.

Bonus:
Nero:
Is there anyone on your partner’s side of the family you find hot? If you could hook up with them without anyone finding out (ever!) would you?

■Don't find anyone hot in his family, though he thought I'd find his sister hot.

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TMI: Sex Ed

Sex Talk & Sex Ed

Source: http://sex-in-words.blogspot.com

June is Adult Sex Ed Month (twitter: #AdultSexEdMonth). The movement was started by blogger @GoodDirtyWoman on twitter. Please read more here: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/june-is-adultsexedmonth/
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were inspired by Sex-Ed writer Jon Pressick and his #dailysexdiscussion that happens on twitter.
1. Have you ever investigated having an open relationship?
- Have you tried to have an open relationship?
I've not investigated having an open relationship, but I have been in several. They have worked wonderfully well for me.

2. Do you have any sexual phobias?
- What have you done to manage or overcome them?
I did not until a few years when I squirted for the first time, and he sniffed it, thinking I pissed the bed. That gave me a fear that I did, or would. And a resentment towards this man. I don't like squirting for that reason, but my lover can make me do it effortlessly regardless. It would be helpful if I knew if he even liked this aspect, as I have to assume he does considering he makes me do it quite frequently. However, even though I've asked, he's been vague. I don't like squirting: I don't see it as sexy, it does give me my first and only sexual concern, and it's very messy wet. I have done nothing to overcome this issue, besides issuing a no-sniffing rule.

3. What is the best new sexual activity you have tried in 2013?
Spanking, or wax. I like them both, but I'm trying to figure out to what varying degrees. I don't always like them, so it's still a learning curve for me.

4. Have you ever called into a sex advice radio/television show or written to a sex advice columnist?
- Was it helpful?
No, I haven't, so I've no idea if it's helpful.

5. Would you use the services of a sex therapist? Why or why not?
Yes, I have seen a sex addiction therapist, who informed me that I am a nympho, not an addict. I was told that I was an addict by another therapist, but the specialist laughed at that. I will not sleep with anyone, I don't endanger my job or family or finances for it, and I am selective with who I sleep with. Just because I always think about sex and enjoy it does not mean that I have to have it, despite the cost. It was comforting, especially considering the first therapist made me feel ashamed of my thoughts.

6. Should sex therapists be allowed to engage in actual sexual activities with clients? Why or why not?
I have no idea, and I would not want to cast an overall judgment on an individualized case.

I highly recommend watching the movie “The Sessions” based on a true story of how a sex therapist helped a disabled man live a full, rich life that included sex. Movie trailer: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1866249/

Bonus:  Have you read any adult sex ed books lately? What do you recommend?
I have not on sex ed., unless we're counting Mating in Captivity by Perel. I am drafting several reviews and my own reflections on that book which deals with erotic intelligence and keeping desire in long term relationships.  
I am currently reading Story of O, which was considered a break through piece of literature on BDSM in the 1950s. It is not on education. I'm a third of the way into it, and should have it finished in a day, considering I started it late last night. Thus far, it is not as psychologically delving as I would hope. For a true mind darkening exploration experience on BDSM, I'd recommend (Anne Rice wrote it under a pseudonym) The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty series.

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