Monday, June 24, 2013

TMI: Sex Ed

Sex Talk & Sex Ed

June is Adult Sex Ed Month (twitter: #AdultSexEdMonth). The movement was started by blogger @GoodDirtyWoman on twitter. Please read more here:
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were inspired by Sex-Ed writer Jon Pressick and his #dailysexdiscussion that happens on twitter.
1. Have you ever investigated having an open relationship?
- Have you tried to have an open relationship?
I've not investigated having an open relationship, but I have been in several. They have worked wonderfully well for me.

2. Do you have any sexual phobias?
- What have you done to manage or overcome them?
I did not until a few years when I squirted for the first time, and he sniffed it, thinking I pissed the bed. That gave me a fear that I did, or would. And a resentment towards this man. I don't like squirting for that reason, but my lover can make me do it effortlessly regardless. It would be helpful if I knew if he even liked this aspect, as I have to assume he does considering he makes me do it quite frequently. However, even though I've asked, he's been vague. I don't like squirting: I don't see it as sexy, it does give me my first and only sexual concern, and it's very messy wet. I have done nothing to overcome this issue, besides issuing a no-sniffing rule.

3. What is the best new sexual activity you have tried in 2013?
Spanking, or wax. I like them both, but I'm trying to figure out to what varying degrees. I don't always like them, so it's still a learning curve for me.

4. Have you ever called into a sex advice radio/television show or written to a sex advice columnist?
- Was it helpful?
No, I haven't, so I've no idea if it's helpful.

5. Would you use the services of a sex therapist? Why or why not?
Yes, I have seen a sex addiction therapist, who informed me that I am a nympho, not an addict. I was told that I was an addict by another therapist, but the specialist laughed at that. I will not sleep with anyone, I don't endanger my job or family or finances for it, and I am selective with who I sleep with. Just because I always think about sex and enjoy it does not mean that I have to have it, despite the cost. It was comforting, especially considering the first therapist made me feel ashamed of my thoughts.

6. Should sex therapists be allowed to engage in actual sexual activities with clients? Why or why not?
I have no idea, and I would not want to cast an overall judgment on an individualized case.

I highly recommend watching the movie “The Sessions” based on a true story of how a sex therapist helped a disabled man live a full, rich life that included sex. Movie trailer:

Bonus:  Have you read any adult sex ed books lately? What do you recommend?
I have not on sex ed., unless we're counting Mating in Captivity by Perel. I am drafting several reviews and my own reflections on that book which deals with erotic intelligence and keeping desire in long term relationships.  
I am currently reading Story of O, which was considered a break through piece of literature on BDSM in the 1950s. It is not on education. I'm a third of the way into it, and should have it finished in a day, considering I started it late last night. Thus far, it is not as psychologically delving as I would hope. For a true mind darkening exploration experience on BDSM, I'd recommend (Anne Rice wrote it under a pseudonym) The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty series.

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  1. I loved Story of O but really enjoyed 120 Days of Sodom. I don't think I got as much out of any book than from Marquis de Sade.

    I also found Fear of Flying pretty good in places


  2. Squirting should be good for a woman!